Hug Your Skeleton

Why won’t you talk to me?  I may not be able to help, but I can listen.  And, I want to support you through this.  These are the frustrated ramblings of someone who is horribly flawed just like you and loves you anyway….

What did the doctors tell you?  Are you going to be alright?   I need to know.  I love you, please talk to me. 

How bad is it?  Are you going to loose the house? I need to know.  I love you, please talk to me.

You’ve never told anyone?  How did you survive that alone?  I love you, please talk to me.

You have imperfections in your life too don’t you?  I know I do.  Are there issues at work in your life that you try desperately to keep swept under the rug, so your friends won’t know how bad things really are at home?  Whether it’s unhappy relationships, bad news from the doctor, or bill collectors calling, you are not alone. Or, is there something in your past that you’re not very proud of doing?  None of us are perfect.  We all have them, lurking in corners, hidden under feigned perfection and self righteousness.  Skeletons.  So, if we all have them, why are we so ashamed of them?  Why can’t we talk about them?  I’m bringing out my skeletons and dusting them off for Halloween this year.  After all, how can we grow and appreciate our own crooked paths that brought us to where we are today without showing our skeletons some love.  Through all of our experiences, the good and the bad, we are reshaped and molded everyday into the people we will become.    And, it’s the adversity in life that strengthens our resolve to become something more than our circumstances, and makes us grow. 

Most of you know that I am writing a novel.  How interesting would my characters be if they did everything right all the time and had never made a bad decision?  Nobody would read that book.  It’s the struggle to claw your way back from the edge of disaster that makes you beautiful.  That’s what people want to see, want to read about, want to be a part of.  It’s the overcoming part of it all that makes you interesting, so embrace it! 

Overcoming illness

Overcoming debt

Overcoming bad decisions

Overcoming depression

If we had no skeletons, the success wouldn’t be nearly so sweet.  So, bring ‘em out, dust ‘em off and let’s talk about it; because, without your skeletons you wouldn’t be here.  Have you hugged your skeleton today?